15 Things People Who Bank from Breakup Don’t Do

A Big Part of Banking from Breakup is What You Don't Do

People who bank from their breakup make up their minds not to do certain things. These are their non-negotiables. What you don't do makes a huge impact on how you boss your breakup. You can either boss your breakup or let your breakup best you.

Here are 15 things people who bank from breakups DON'T do:

15. They don't freak out thinking about their ex and what they might be doing and who they're doing it with. What their ex and whom ever they're with is none of their business. Ex...Who?


14. They don't stalk their ex (or the person they cheated with) on social media or anywhere else for that matter. They don't look for ways to see their ex, talk to their ex, text their ex, be around their ex, hook up with their ex. They just don't. There is a reason they are their ex. They don't allow their ex to rent any more space in their head or their heart.


13. They don't seek revenge on their ex in any way shape or form. They bank from their breakup instead. Their breakup is a blank check should they choose to cash it. As Beyoncé says in Formation, "Always stay gracious. The best revenge is your paper."


12. They don't hold on to the past, rehash the past or live in the past. They let go of all their breakup baggage. They do not allow them self to be consumed by all of the  "what-ifs", the "I should've", and the "if only I" of their breakup. Living in the past only keeps them from their present and their future. They choose to breakup with their breakup and move forward in their life. Holding on to their breakup doesn't serve them.


11. They don't engage in any ex bashing, cursing out or name calling. They focus their energy and thoughts on positive high-vibe things. They know that words/thoughts become things. They regulate them self so they do not fall into the grip of their inferior function.


10. They don't harbor hate, animosity, negativity, guilt or judgement towards their ex. They keep it positive and love on them self. They make them self a priority in their life. They don't allow negativity to take up space in their life. 


9. They don't play the regret-self-hate-shame-blame game. They refuse to be bitter and angry. They accept personal responsibility for them self and they exercise their power of choice. They choose how they move on from their breakup. No pity party here. They don't play the victim. They take charge and boss up. 


8. They don't complain, rant, rave, ruminate, whine, obsess over their ex in FB groups or other online or offline places. They keep it classy and positive. They don't let their ex steal their joy. They refuse to be engulfed by negative energy. 


7. They don't get caught up in the  “woe is me” pity party. They refuse to get sucked into the black hole of darkness and despair. They don't have time to waste. They keep it moving. 


6. They don't make excuses or justify what happened. They accept that their relationship is over and they move on. They are over it and on with it. 


They don't try to hold on to their ex emotionally or physically (sexually). They don't keep texting their ex or hooking up with their ex hoping they will take them back. They make a clean break and done.


4. They don't look for closure or answers why. They create their own closure. The answers are irrelevant. What's done is done. There's nothing their ex can tell them at this point. Knowing why doesn't change the outcome. No guarantee they'll get the truth. They just don't have time for the stories or the lies. So they don't need any answers. 


3. They don't invest any emotional energy into situations they can't change or fix. No crying in the club or on the bathroom floor. No eating pints of Ben and Jerry's Cookie Dough ice cream. No spending days in the same pj's. Not of that. They save their tears for occasions that matter. 


2. They don't waste time or energy on their ex or their breakup. They don't lose sleep over or shed tears  over their breakup. They are past that. They focus their time, energy and attention on them self, their goals, their dreams, and their life. 


1. They don't let their breakup define them or their future. They had a breakup, but they are not their breakup. They refuse to let their breakup derail them from their destiny. Their breakup is a setup for their come up. They boss their breakup.

Are you ready to boss your breakup? Find out now.