Back in June of 2017 Rihanna was haled for her breakup wisdom when she gave the sage advice to a heartbroken fan on Twitter.

Apparently, he DM’d the singer, songwriter, and actress asking how to get over a breakup.

Her response was on point and hope-filled. She responded,

"Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself!" she wrote. "Cry if you have to, but it won't be forever! You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful! In the meantime, enjoy all that YOU are!!!!"

Take that in for a moment. Really sit with that.

Think of your breakup as Rihanna says as a gift. This change in my perspective is what helped me the most. Instead of focusing on the bad, the hurt, the pain. I focused on what I gained and the good that came from it.

My breakup was the greatest thing that could have happened to me. It helped me to reconnect with myself. I may have lost the relationship/friendship, but I found me.

My breakup put me back in the driver’s seat of my life. For way too long, I was a passenger in my life. I am embarrassed to say that I dropped the ball in my own life. The sad truth was that I had lost myself in the relationship. I had forgotten about Lindy. I didn’t know who I was anymore. It was like I was looking at my life from the outside. I was just going along to get along so to speak.

No regrets, everything happens for a reason. If something is not meant to be, it doesn’t matter what you do you can not bring it back together. Try as you might, but the chances of it changing slim to none. That’s the reality. My breakup had to happen. If it didn’t I would be still just drifting through my life. So, it was a gift. I only wished I had got it sooner. But no complaining. No regrets. Because people who bank from breakup are too busy “banking from breakup” to complain and whine.

When you put all your energy into the bad aspects of your breakup it keeps you stuck and prevents you from moving on and living your life. You can’t bank from breakup if you are broken up over your ex. You can’t bank from breakup if you are obsessing over you ex and you are trying to insert yourself into their lives. The two just don’t go together. You cannot bank from breakup and be bawling your eyes out over your ex. To bank from breakup you need to be ready, willing and motivated. Your energy needs to be right. It has to be positive. You need to be focused, determined, resourceful and committed.

You deserve to bank from your breakup. I am here to spread the word to every one who has been through a breakup and who wants better than their breakup. Your breakup doesn’t have to break you. Rather it should build you. Like Rihanna says, “It won’t be forever.” So, in the meantime, while you wait “enjoy who you are” and who you are becoming. Banking from Breakup is all about becoming your best self and living your best life; And of course, cashing in on your heartbreak. Because as I always say, “You should never leave a breakup empty handed.”

Changing your perspective about your breakup allows you to write the ending. You get to choose how you boss up from your breakup.

It doesn’t matter how you broke up, why you broke up or who’s to blame for your breakup.

It doesn’t matter what you said or what they said.

It doesn’t matter what happened. None of that matters.

What matters is that you are worthy.

You are worthy of love.

You are worthy to live the life you’ve always wanted…a life you love.

You are worthy to experience the freedom to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.

You are worthy of standing in your power and walking in your purpose.

You are worthy of a life that excites you beyond your wildest imagination and dreams.

You are worthy of the best that life has to offer.

You are worthy to live the life of your dreams.

You are worthy to have it all.

You are worth to be financially and emotionally independent.

You are worthy to bank from your breakup.

Bottom-line…you are worthy

The Lesson: Change your perspective and see your breakup as a gift. In your hurt is your healing.