What is the Banking from Breakup Story?
Every great movement has a story. Banking from Breakup is no different. The Banking from Breakup Story starts with how I got my name. When people meet me for the first time and they ask me my name, they often respond back with I’ve never heard that name before or that’s different.
Well, when my mom found out she was pregnant, she had already had my sister. So naturally she was hoping for a boy. She already had his name picked out “Lyndon” after the 36th US President Lyndon Johnson who had been in office a few years before I was born. Surprize! I came along and changed up the plans. She so loved the name that she named me Lindy instead. An uncommon name for an uncommon woman. Banking from Breakup is an uncommon approach to getting over a breakup.
You’re probably wondering how there could possibly be power in a breakup or how any good can come from something so devastating and painful. Well I am here to tell you that it is possible!
The moment I knew when my relationship was over
How would you feel if the most important person in your life forgot your birthday? They didn’t acknowledge the day, didn’t call, didn’t text, nothing. They didn’t do anything special for you, no gift, no dinner out, nothing. The whole day passes and not a word from them. Nothing, but radio silence. Absolutely nothing.
I know exactly what that feels like. You feel like your birthday never mattered, you don't matter. You're devastated. It's painful to learn that after all the time you've invested, you walk away with nothing in return. Zero, nothing!
The Big Aha Moment
My big aha moment came when my best friend CJ told me about a book I should buy. She couldn’t remember the name of the book or the name of the author but she remembered a quote from the book. I immediately went and searched for the quote in Google. Low and behold I found the name of the author and the name of the book. That night I go to the local bookstore to find that they have only 2 copies of the book on hand. I bought them both. One for me and one for CJ. As I read the pages of the book it was like the author was talking directly to me. Everything she said resonated with me. Then not even 15 pages into the book I come across the 5 words that changed my life. They were “There is no prince charming.”
As young girls we are raised to believe that one day we will find our prince charming and we’ll live happily ever after. So, we grow up believing in this fantasy. Some of us go through our entire lives, hoping and wishing. We are just so unable to let go of the fairytale. The truth of the matter is, this is not a Disney movie. It’s real life. Everything about my relationship and now my breakup started to make sense.
The one powerful lesson my grandmother taught me that I still carry with me to this very day
Growing up my grandmother lived with us. She grew up through 2 world wars, and the great depression. These events in her history shaped the way she lived as a woman and raised her children.
She was very frugal. She didn’t waste anything. I must have been about 10 or 11 years old and granny had prepared dinner. But I had eaten some snacks earlier in the day. As you guessed it I was not very hungry. I ate what I could and I must have take about 4 good bites out of the chicken leg and I was done. I went to throw the rest in the garbage. Granny caught me throwing the food away. Well she made me fish that chicken leg out of the garbage and finish it. No joke. Then she proceeded to tell how children in other countries would be happy for that chicken leg.
She reminded me that “waste not, want not”. In other words, what she was saying was do not waste anything, because you might need it in the future. Who knew I would carry this lesson with me to this day. Not only am I a lot like my grandmother in many ways, but I chose not to waste my breakup. Strange right!? I know.
Banking from Breakup was my way of not wasting my breakup. I was not only bent on not wasting my breakup. But I was also bent on not leaving my breakup empty handed. I was going to do everything humanly possible to leverage my breakup and use it to my advantage in all areas of my life. By that I mean, I was going to spiritually bank, emotionally bank, mentally bank, physically bank and of course financially bank!
What is Banking from Breakup?
Banking from Breakup is not traditional standard way of doing breakups. It’s anything but traditional. It is about changing your perspective of how you view breakups. How you view your breakup is totally up to you. I chose to use my breakup for my good. Anything else just was not an option for me. Cause we all know the rollercoaster that a breakup, divorce, or separation can take you on. Quite honestly, I wanted no part of that. As heartbroken as I was I was not going to let my breakup best me. If anything, I was going to boss up from my breakup.
There was absolutely no way I was going to let my breakup break me. Instead I chose to let it build me.
Why Bank from Breakup?
Breakups do a number on you spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically and financially. They’re not fun. When you go through a breakup your life is flipped on its head. You are distracted from your life. You feel lost, confused, stuck. When you’re in this state it’s impossible to be your best self or live your best life. Banking from Breakup is all about putting you back in the driver’s seat of your life. It is about reclaiming your power and your sense of self so you can best your breakup and boss up.
You have a choice you can choose to do your breakup the same way you may have done them in the past. Or you can choose to do it differently this time. With 85% of relationships ending in breakups and 50% of marriages ended in divorce, this will not be your last breakup rodeo. Just keeping it real. Choose to bank from your breakup so you can come out on top. Banking from Breakup is all about making power moves. You can't look backward. You must look forward.
What will you choose? Do you want to bank from breakup? Or do you want to be broke and broken from breakup? Drop a comment below.
