How to “Level Up” from Breakup Like Ciara

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It’s Level Up Season

Level Up is the new up-tempo summer viral hit from R&B singer songwriter Ciara. Can you say comeback? Ciara made her return to the music scene last week. Level Up is her first official single from her seventh, yet untitled, studio album, that was released on July 18, 2018 under Beauty Entertainment.

Let me tell you, I didn’t see this one coming. This song is giving me life right now. To many times in life we settle for less than we deserve in relationships. We stay in situations we have no business being in, because we don’t want to be single or we don’t think we will find someone to love us the way we are. I know because I stayed longer than I should have. And yes, I made all kinds of excuses. Been there done that. I am all about the level up. Trust me I will not make the same mistake again because I know my worth. Never waste your feelings on someone that doesn’t value you and never let a person tell you they don’t want you more than once. Thank you, I got the memo. Because ain’t nobody got time for that! 

Ciara’s Level Up Self Love Anthem of 2018

The message in Level Up is loud and clear. The song opens with some powerful words that you can’t ignore, “Be your own boss, love yourself, get up and dance. Level up!”. This is my new mantra right now.

This song right here is the self love anthem of 2018. The song is about loving yourself, realizing your worth and leveling up in your life. The title of the song is a reference to a controversial Instagram post Ciara shared back in January of 2018 based on a short video clip of a sermon by Pastor John Gray from back in 2016. Ciara captioned her post with the hashtag “#LevelUp. Don’t Settle”. Needless to say, she had social media in their feelings. There I go again with those Drake references. People had a lot to say about it. But we are not here to discuss all of that. 

Level up is Ciara’s journey of taking back her power and owning it. More so, it’s about her personal growth, her renewed love for herself and her rediscovering her self-worth. As we all know Ciara went through a very messy and public breakup and custody battle with her now ex-fiancé rapper Future. To say things got ugly between the two is an understatement. I’m not here to rehash the details of that. Let the past be the past! Period! 

Ciara’s Level Up Moment

After her controversial Instagram post Ciara came to a powerful realization. She said, “I was once that girl wanting to be loved a certain way but was making the wrong choices. I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman. That’s when I realized married or not married… I needed to love myself. #LevelUp”. I love a full circle moment in life. Banking from Breakup™ was my full circle moment. At the end of the day, there is no prince charming. So, I decided to become my own “prince charming” in my life. (That is a whole other story, for a whole other day!)

Level Up Lessons

The song is all over the Internet. It has even sparked the Level Up Challenge and countless reaction videos on YouTube. All that aside, there are some powerful lessons in the Level Up lyrics. There is just so much we can takeaway from this song.  It is pure gold. As you know I am all about the lessons in life. Our lives are speaking to us and teaching us everyday. So, here's how to level up from breakup like Ciara (adapted from the song lyrics):

  1. Let go of old mistakes. Don’t dwell on them, learn from them and keeping it moving.
  2. You can turn your breakup into something and comeback better and stronger than ever.
  3. The only way to get things done is to talk less and take more action.
  4. Focus on elevating, not losses and upgrading.
  5. Elevate your level, graduate your level. Go beyond.
  6. Your lessons are your blessings and you can turn them into money. (My personal favorite!)
  7. Don’t settle. No wallowing only winning on another level.
  8. Surround yourself with the right people, drop fake people, only team love, no hate.
  9. Keep grinding and shinning.
  10. Remember you can have it all.

Ciara's Mission with Level Up

Media outlet Entertainment Tonight, recently caught up with Ciara at the 2018 ESPY awards on the red carpet, what she had to say about Level Up was amazing. I am so about it! She said that her "mission is to inspire the world to dance, be their best...make sure you're getting the best out of life, the love you're getting in life, your health in life, your job in life - doing life, making sure you're living life at the best level - the highest level." Honestly, I could not agree with Ciara more.  Let's level up after breakup and live life at our best level. Who's ready to level up? Drop a comment below and let me know 3 ways you plan to level up after breakup? 

My Level Up Publishing My Upcoming Book 

I will be publishing my first book later on this year. I used to worry about what people would think, but now I believe that someone out there needs my book and is waiting for my book. If my book helps one person then I have succeeded and this journey will have been so worth it. My book will go into more detail about finding your power and purpose through your pain. I am writing this book because my story matters and words change lives. STAY TUNED!