What energy are you taking into 2019? This is the big question blowing up on Twitter as we round out 2018. There have been endless tweets and memes about the "energy you're taking into 2019". Some people want Michelle Obama glittery Balenciaga boots energy. Others want Ariana Grande’s Thank U, Next energy or the Mark Manson's not giving a f*ck energy or the big d*ck energy (BDE), or the Catherine Zeta-Jones no apologies energy, or the Queen Naija never bitter, only better energy or the Daniel Sloss's Jigsaw energy. My personal favorites are BDE and that unapologetic energy (and not being bothered or phased by things that don’t matter or are important to me).  What about CEO energy, or Boss or Mogul energy? Just so many choices!

2019 is all about your energy and your attitude. You are responsible for the energy you bring into 2019. It’s your choice. If you want to know more about BDE then keep reading.

Energy! Yes, in 2018 we saw the popularization of BDE. It started with Twitter user @imbobswaget who coined the term as a way to eulogize and pay respect to popular chef Anthony Bourdain after his tragic passing. Clearly not your typical way to eulogize someone. But I think it captured Bourdain’s energy and passion for what he did accurately. If you're a big Bourdain fan you would know this to be true. Needless to say, that tweet went viral amassing over 6000 likes.

Follow that up with a tweet from Ariana Grande about her then fiancé Pete Davidson’s “member of the house” and boom BDE is a thing. And that tweet also went viral further solidifying BDE in the public consciousness. That was all everyone was talking about all over social media. People were talking about it so much so that it has since become part of our social dialogue and vernacular. It is its own conversation. Some went as far to say that it was the best thing that happened to the Internet that week. So, I guess you can say BDE broke the Internet. 

According to The Cut’s Allison P. Davis, “BDE is a quiet confidence and ease with oneself that comes from knowing you have an enormous penis and you know what to do with it. It’s not cockiness, it’s not a power trip — it’s the opposite: a healthy, satisfied, low-key way you feel yourself.”

BDE is really just another way of feeling yourself. It’s an aura or a vibe you have. It’s that je ne sais quoi (it factor), a certain swag you carry yourself with that is undeniable and can’t be ignored. The energy speaks for it’s self and needs no introductions. That’s what BDE is all about. It’s more about attitude and personality than it is male anatomy. Think of it as a metaphor for the vibe you want to rock. Personally, I’m down with BDE in 2019. You with me?

Nope, it’s not d*ck-dependent. You don’t need to have a d*ck to embody this energy, even though it about the "D". It’s not a requirement. For that matter, any one can have BDE. Think Beyoncé, Cardi B. and Rhianna the Queen of BDE. Old Hollywood BDE stars like Marilyn Monroe and Katherine Hepburn.  They all have that it-factor about them. BDE is like being a badass, but on steroids (in a good way though). Not in a ratchet way.

When it comes to breakups, BDE is about owning your breakup, getting over it and moving on from it (and learning and growing from it). Breakups have away of making us feel less than, like we are not good enough. BDE is about reclaiming your confidence and boosting your self-esteem. And bouncing back stronger and better than ever.

BDE is about being secure in yourself and unapologetic for who you are, owning your mess, defining yourself on your terms and not worrying about what other people think about you. It really boils down to loving yourself (flaws and all), accepting the things you can’t change or control, embracing your amazingness and knowing your worth and your value. At the end of the day, it is about knowing when to move on from a situation that no longer serves you boldly and confidently.

You get to choose what energy you bring into the new year and what energy you leave behind in 2018. You pick the attitude you welcome the new year with. So whatever energy you choose to bring into 2019 own it. You don’t have to settle for just one type of energy. Pick a few if you like. Use them to build the life you want in 2019.

Now if you’re like me and you are a fan of BDE, then everyday show up with that positive BDE. And don’t let the negative energy of 2018 follow you into 2019. Let 2019 be the year you unapologetically and unashamedly rise regardless. 2019 is your year! Let's get it in 2019. Lastly, what we are not gonna do in 2019 is our exes. Point. Blank. Period. That said...

Happy New Year Everyone. Wishing you the best in 2019. I’ve got some great things in store for you for 2019. Stay tune and keep up with the blog to find out. Also share with a friend who you think can benefit form this post.