Yes, a clapback. What is a clapback? Better yet what is a breakup clapback? First off it has nothing to do with your ex. To be clear, it’s not about dissing them or throwing shade. Lets get that straight. We straight? Good. Now a breakup clapback is very different than a regular clapback. A regular clapback is “an American slang term for a comeback or diss”. It’s a response to an insult or criticism, sometimes in a vengeful manner. Some would argue that a clapback is just a comeback. Yes it might be. But the energy of a clapback is very different than a comeback. It's a comeback with a whole lot more umph. A comeback is rather tame. A breakup clapback is just the opposite in that it is not done in a vengeful manner. Think of it as a clapback with a positive spin on it. It’s your glow up game, your bounce back plan. So, if you are interested in clapping back on your breakup keep reading.

It’s way better than the alternative. We all know that breakups can mess you up. So rather than letting your breakup break you, why not clapback? Just saying! Throwback, I remember when I was going though my last breakup how devastated and broken I felt. Nothing makes you feel more discarded, rejected and abandoned than a breakup. Trust me I was a whole train wreck. There were days I just cried and sat around feeling sorry for myself.

Then it dawned on me that I was blowing it. Seriously, I was letting a situation (being ghosted) I had no control over control me. You can’t control what others do. The only person you can control is yourself. So, I said enough. That is when I decided that I was going to turn things around in my favor. I was going to clapback. And that is exactly what I did. Enter Banking from Breakup™. This was my clapback. I went beyond a basic "comeback". Basically, I turned my breakup into bank. Not just financially, but I was able to bounce back spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. This is not your typical breakup bounce back. There is nothing typical about how I got over my ex and my breakup. Now this may not be the approach for you. But being able to create alternative streams of income is never a bad thing. It honestly has changed my life. There is nothing better than being self-reliant and self-empowered.

Breakup clapback is about standing up for yourself and taking a stand against your breakup (not your ex). It has nothing to do with them. They are irrelevant. Simply, a breakup clapback is an attitude where you basically are not going to let your breakup break you or tear you down. You’re basically putting your breakup in its place. Breakup you’ve been served! “Sit down” and “take 3 seats”. It’s essentially not taking anymore BS from your breakup. You deal, you process, and you keep it moving. None of this, “I can’t move on if my ex doesn’t give me closure” nonsense. Or “my ex moved on so fast with someone else…bought a house…having a kid…getting married and I’m here stuck.” Your ex is not holding you back. You’re holding yourself back. Eff closure. Give yourself closure. It’s shutting down the pity party, letting go of the lame excuses and the whoa is me attitude. Yes, you had a breakup. But your breakup doesn’t define you, your life or your future. So, lay it to rest and keep it moving. “RIP Breakup!” Time to get your life back.

Last thing you want to become is a casualty of your breakup. You want to be smart about how you deal and handle things (especially if there are pets and/or children involved). Don’t give your breakup the upper hand over you or your life. Enough already. It’s time to reclaim your sense of self, your life and your power. Your breakup should not be running your life or dictating what you do and don’t do. You decide your next power move. The thing is it’s up to you how you use your breakup. Your next level of greatness is on the other side of your breakup. It's up to you to go get it. Here’s the thing, you can either use your breakup to break you or to build you. It’s ultimately your choice. Your life, your actions, your behaviors are your responsibility. So, what are you going to do? The ball is in your court. Are you going to take the shot? Or stay stuck while your ex moves on with their life with someone else who isn't you? Your call!

Frank Sinatra said the “best revenge is massive success”. I agree 100%. This is not about revenge in the traditional sense. Revenge as we know it usually focuses on the other person. A breakup clapback is all about you and showing yourself what you’re made of and what you’re capable of. You are the main attraction. Guess what, there's a new celebrity in town and it's you! At the end of the day, it’s about unapologetically flipping the script on your breakup and becoming massively successful how you choose. Most importantly, it’s about putting yourself in a place to feel good, look good and do good. There is nothing more satisfying than feeling and looking good and doing the best for yourself. You are in control of your bounce back. So, embrace it. Be bold, be brave, be badass. In the words Beyoncé, “always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper.” The way I see it, is my ex pretty much gave me a blank check. And I am cashing it. No ands, ifs or buts!

When you are clapback ready your breakup doesn’t have a chance. Breakup “bye bye thank you” (in my best Empire's Cookie Lyon's voice). Let me know what is your ultimate breakup clapback? It all starts with a plan. Join in the movement. Breakup clapback in effect for 2019!