Why Laugh at Your Breakup

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Yes! Laugh at Your Breakup 

Laugh at your breakup? I know what you must be thinking, “breakups are not funny”. “They're painful, and they hurt.” I get it. Breakups are nothing to laugh about when you are going through them. But nothing says you can’t laugh at them once you’re in the clear from them. Either way laugh at your breakup or cry. You can go either way. Or you can do both. My thing is do what makes you feel good. It’s been said that “laughter is good medicine” (Norman Cousins) and crying is very cathartic. Personally, I love a good laugh. Keep reading if you would like to know why you should laugh at your breakup.

Find the Humor in Your Hurt 

How I found the humor in my own hurt? If you follow the blog and my last breakup misadventure you would know that in my last relationship I was ghosted, not even on Halloween. But my birthday. They didn’t even give me a heads up. Really! I should have known. But, there was no warning. They could have done better and waited till at least Halloween. There you have it blindsided, with a side of ghosted. No call, no text, no email…nothing…just thin air, crickets and radio silence. Can you say Houdini. I am so over ghosts right now. Casper you did me dirty. You aren’t so friendly.

The Reality of it All 

The reality is anyone can leave you at any time. No one has to stay or be with you. They don’t owe you anything, an explanation, a call, a text, an email, nothing. You can make up all the excuses in the book, but it doesn’t change who they are or your situation. Trust me I know this. I used to think that my love was a “torrential downpour” (I love hard). They just weren’t ready for my kind of love. I guess they didn’t have the right kind of rain boots. The extra tall, super durable ones.

Being Ghosted Was A Gift 

Looking back, being ghosted was a gift. At the time I was not laughing about it. The joke was on me it seemed. I felt like a fool. Not only that I was embarrassed. Smart women don’t get ghosted. So I thought. Truly, it could happen to anyone. Somehow for me I got reeled in and caught up in the relationship. How did I not see this coming? Maybe I did. But I was in denial. No one likes to see the person they see them self with for the rest of their life disappear and just vanish from their life. And like that 10 years of my life went up in smoke. Was it a complete waste, no? Am I annoyed that I invested so much of my time into someone who didn't deserve it, yes? But if I wasn't ghosted there would be no "Banking from Breakup". 

Start a Blog…Who Me? 

Hell no! Here’s the thing didn’t set out to start a blog, or a business or share my breakup with the Internet. This was the last thing on my mind after my relationship ended. I was not going to put my mess out in those Internet streets to be laughed at. But what started as my way to unload my thoughts turned into Banking from Breakup™. I refused to waste my breakup and was determined to learn from it and grow from it no matter what. See what my ex didn’t realize was that they gave me a blank check that I could add as many zeros to as I wanted. Fast forward to today and that is exactly what I’m doing. I’m cashing that check.

Banking from Breakup is my Last Laugh 

Yes, it was shitty getting ghosted after more than 10 years. But honestly and truly I got the last laugh. Nothing better than when life serves you a breakup you make the sweetest and tastiest breakup lemonade ever! Yes, breakup lemonade is a thing. Will share the recipe in another blog. Move over my funny Valentine. Time to make room for my funny breakup.

Let’s Get Serious for a Minute 

Seriously, it has been amazing discovering ways to bank from my breakup and spin it into breakup gold. It feels amazing to finally be all about me and to bank on myself and in my life. Banking is not just about money, even though that is what the name implies. It’s about elevating all areas of your life – your spiritual, your emotional, your mental, your physical and of course your financial. Banking from Breakup™ is really a philosophy and a mindset. Like anything else, it only works, if you do. What you do with your breakup is 100% up to you. You don’t need your ex’s permission, input or opinion. Their say in your life expired when you broke up. That said, you are responsible for you and they are responsible for them self.

Go Ahead Laugh at Your Breakup 

Like the actor Will Smith says, "laugh at everything". I think you can find humor in anything. It’s a choice. Being able to laugh at your breakup is freeing. I’m not saying don’t cry. Cry if you want to. Feel the emotional ups and downs. There’s nothing wrong with that. What I am saying is to find the funny in your breakup. Trust me, it won’t be right away, but be open to it. You may not know what that funny is right now. But it will come to you. Mine’s did. Once I got over the initial pain and heartache of being ghosted, I was able to find the funny and laugh at my breakup. The key is to look at your breakup in the 3rd person. Why the 3rd person to avoid reliving the painful experience. It took me 7 months to get over my breakup and 10 months to be able to laugh at my breakup.