Why You Must Make Peace With Your Breakup

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Make Peace with Your Breakup in 2019 Why make peace with your breakup? It’s the only way to slay in 2019. Holding on to your breakup like it’s some kind of security blanket does nothing for you, but keep you stuck in the past. It doesn’t serve you in any way. So why allow yourself to be a causality of your breakup? It is so easy to go get comfortable with it. It is like the last connection you have to your relationship. The fact is your ex let go of the relationship. They let go of you. What does that tell you? There is no point trying to fight for something that is clearly over. Don’t hold on to someone who has let you go. If you want to…
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Why the No Contact Rule is BS

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The No Contact Rule is Utter and Complete BS The no contact rule in theory may make sense. But it all depends on who you listen to. And all the experts seem to be drinking the same cool-aid and backing the same bad advice. Based on my research, the no contact rule is based on the premise of trying to “get your ex back”. The issue is that not all of us are trying to get our exes back. And some of us have no business being with our exes. Disclaimer: I am not bashing those who endorse or offer these "how to get your ex back" , "text your ex back" or "back with my ex again" programs. For some people this is what they want and that's fair.  So, it…
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Clapback on Your Breakup

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Clapback: The Ultimate Post-Breakup Weapon Yes, a clapback. What is a clapback? Better yet what is a breakup clapback? First off it has nothing to do with your ex. To be clear, it’s not about dissing them or throwing shade. Lets get that straight. We straight? Good. Now a breakup clapback is very different than a regular clapback. A regular clapback is “an American slang term for a comeback or diss”. It’s a response to an insult or criticism, sometimes in a vengeful manner. Some would argue that a clapback is just a comeback. Yes it might be. But the energy of a clapback is very different than a comeback. It's a comeback with a whole lot more umph. A comeback is rather tame. A breakup clapback is just the…
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More Breakup Truth, Part 2

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Yes! More Breakup Truth Here is more breakup truth about breakups. In Part 1 we tackled some of the commonly overlooked truths about breakups. In Part 2, more breakup truth we pick up where with left off with and tackle the rest. If you are the least bit curious about those truths, keep reading. More Breakup Truth #7 They give your life a reboot Your life is not over. It’s quite the opposite your life is getting a reboot and you drop the dead weight from your life (a whole other human to be exact). Many times, in a relationship we sacrifice so much of our self and put our dreams and desires on hold. A breakup gives you your life back and puts you back in the driver’s seat…
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Breakup Truth: The Truth About Breakups

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The Breakup Truth ​Here is the breakup truth about breakups. Breakups often get vilified. And in some cases, it is justified. Let’s keep it real, no one likes breakups. There is no way to really prepare for them even if we sense or know they are going to happen. The bottom line is that they are not fun. They can often bring out the worst in us and make us fall into the grip of our inferior function. Trust I’ve been there. I say all this to say that there is another way to look at breakups. Below are 13 breakup truths I've discovered having going through my own painful breakup blindside. If you want to know what they are, well keep reading. Breakup Truth #1 They Are Inevitable According…
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What Energy Are You Taking Into 2019

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Your Energy for 2019 What’s It Going to Be? What energy are you taking into 2019? This is the big question blowing up on Twitter as we round out 2018. There have been endless tweets and memes about the "energy you're taking into 2019". Some people want Michelle Obama glittery Balenciaga boots energy. Others want Ariana Grande’s Thank U, Next energy or the Mark Manson's not giving a f*ck energy or the big d*ck energy (BDE), or the Catherine Zeta-Jones no apologies energy, or the Queen Naija never bitter, only better energy or the Daniel Sloss's Jigsaw energy. My personal favorites are BDE and that unapologetic energy (and not being bothered or phased by things that don’t matter or are important to me).  What about CEO energy, or Boss or…
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Lessons from Michelle Obama: Your Breakup is Your Becoming

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Michelle Obama’s “Becoming” Michelle Obama gifted the world with her long-awaited memoir Becoming on November 13, 2018. In the book she talks about her own journey of becoming. From her upbringing, to becoming the first African American First Lady and her transitioning from the White House. And everything else in between, her roots, her finding her voice, her stance on politics, her marriage, her struggles with infertility, her role as a mother, her short-lived career as a lawyer etc. There is a lot rolled up in this gem of a book. This is not a review of the book. It is more about the lessons we can all learn from the former first lady and apply to our own lives. If you are curious to know how your breakup is…
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Lessons from Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck I recently read Mark Manson’s book – It was a provocative, perspective-affirming, cage-rattling read. If you are easily offended, then this book is not the book for YOU! This is not a review of the book, but rather a look at the underlying premise of the book and how it can help you put your breakup into perspective. So, if you want to put your breakup into perspective and take charge of the things that are under your control and that you can change well keep reading.  What’s in a Title Basically, the title of the book pretty much sums up what the book is about. This idea is not original by any means. As they say there are no…
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Getting Over Your Ex Fast

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Getting Over Your Ex is Hard Getting over your ex is challenging at best. Trying to break the hold of your ex is one of the most difficult things following a breakup. You have history with this person or you may have children with them or you share pets. Either way it is not easy. Everyone deals with the end of a relationship differently. There is no right or wrong way to get over your ex and move on. There is only what works for you. Your life is 100% your responsibility and no one else's. You decide how you bounce back. I am not claiming to have all the answers. But I can share what helped me to move on in record speed (7 months to be exact). I…
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Why Choose YOU

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Choose You Don’t Wait to be Picked Choose you first. Whether you just had a breakup or a divorce, an almost relationship that ended, a situationship or you’ve never been in a relationship, this message is for you. What I’ve learned since my last breakup is, the most important relationship you will every have in your life, is your relationship with yourself. How you treat yourself determines how you allow other people to treat you, what you tolerate and what you’ll settle for. No one wants to be someone else’s door mat second choice. Trust me. What does it mean to Choose YOU Choosing you is a declaration if you will. It’s about saying Yes to your life, Owning it and being Unapologetic about it. Point. Blank. Period. For a…
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