Khloe Kardashian splits from her 10-month old, daughter’s father Tristan Thompson this past weekend. Khloe was not "shocked or surprised, more than she was angry". There's nothing worst than being blindsided by a breakup. Breakups are hard enough. But even harder when there are children involved. Say what you want about the Kardashians. Love them or hate them. But no one deserves being cheated on especially by someone in your family circle. It's the worst kind of betrayal and it sucks. So, keep reading if want to know what we can learn from Khloe Kardashian amidst her latest breakup with the NBA power forward.

The rumor mill has been going crazy since this past Monday when it came out that Khloé Kardashian and Tristan Thompson have broken up for good. Various sources have been covering the latest Kardashian relationship drama. The breakup comes after yet another cheating scandal this past Valentine’s day weekend. So allegedly Thompson cheated on Kardashian with her sister Kylie Jenner’s BFF Jordyn Woods (whom the Kardashian's considered family). Yes, it’s messy. This story is all the buzz on social media right now. It literally is dominating the internet. I am not here to dissect the details. But I will say that, “when someone shows you who they are the, believe them the first time” (Maya Angelou). And it is so true.

As you guessed it the media outlets are having a field day with this speculation-fueled, conspiracy-driven, drama-filled, family-embroiled story. People on social media can be equally mean. But I am not here to rehash the drama, jump on the troll train, call nobody out their name or character, or to judge anyone. That is not my M.O. At the end of the day, last name aside Khloe is a woman dealing with the worst kind of heartbreak, infidelity. And there is a child involved, 10-month old, Baby True. This is a tough situation for her, and I feel for her. But she is handling it as well as can be expected. Trust me I know the feeling. The feeling of being betrayed, embarrassed, devastated, angry and shocked. Been there. The pain of a heartbreak hurts the same regardless of who you are, your last name or your area code. 

This is not Khloe’s first heartbreak. She has been down this road before with Tristan. What I love about Khloe Kardashian is her resilience and her strength. Khloe  always comes out on top regardless of the situation. Not only that, she takes adversity and is able to flip it into something positive and transformative. For one thing, she doesn't let the situation dominate or define her life. Khloe rises regardless. Instead, she channels her pain and heartache into  passion, which fuels her creativity. We saw it with Revenge Body after her divorce from Lamar Odom. Don't forget, she also wrote a best-selling book “Strong Looks Better Naked” and started her popular “Good American Jean Company”. 

So yes, Khloe is no stranger to banking from breakup. Not only has she demonstrated that you can hack your heartbreak, but you can also cash in on it. And why not?  Your breakup can be anything you want it to be. It can be a best-selling book, a business, a blog, an online store, literally anything. And the best news is you don't have to be Khloe Kardashian to do it either. As I've said in previous posts, your breakup is a blank check. That's right, your ex has literally handed you a blank check whether they realize it or not. Now whether you cash it or not is totally up to you. That said, there's a lot we can learn from Khloe Kardashian. So here are 8 lessons we can takeaway from Khloe and her recent breakup.

Various friends and family members took a stand on social media for Khloe which triggered a massive unfollowing spree. Many of the Kar-Jenner clan have either unfollowed Tristan Thompson and or Jordyn Woods. Khloe has a child with Tristan so not as easy because they still have to co-parent. The key will be boundaries and standards. But, it appears that she has deleted a bunch of recent photos of her now ex Tristan Thompson from her social media and has turned off comments on many of the other remaining pics. Honestly, it's for the best. You have to protect your heart. Here's the thing, you get to control what you do after a heartbreak. Plus, there's no point holding on to painful memories and reminders of the person (or people) who have hurt you. That's just common sense.

Kardashian has not made an official statement on the situation . For the most part since the scandal broke Khloe has gone silent on social. Which is a wise move. She has slowly shed light on her feelings on her IG Story. But, her comments have been pretty tame, mostly inspirational quotes. At the end of the day, details of your breakup have no business being on social media. Social media is forever. You can't take it back once it's out there. So the less you post on social media about your breakup the better. This is where less, really is more. We've seen where celebrities have posted things on their social media years ago and sure enough it's dug up and recirculated on social and comes back to haunt them. It doesn't die.  

For Khloe Kardashian, "family is everything". Her family and her BFF Malika Haqq have been by her side during this difficult time. Khloe posted, "The only relationship we trust"  in reference to her bestie Malika. True friends are a light when our world is shattered by betrayal. Like family, they help take the sting out of the pain and are there to comfort and support you. When you're going through heartbreak you find out who your family and your friends are. 

Literally, two days after her split from Tristan Thompson, Khloe made her first public red-carpet appearance in true boss babe style with her long-time bestie, Malika Haqq. They were spotted at the PrettyLittleThing LA office launch party Wednesday night. Clearly, she is not letting her breakup derail her or get in the way of securing her money. Despite everything, she put on a brave face and did what she had to do. It was a contractual obligation that had been planned months in advance. Here's the thing nobody plans to be blindsided by a breakup. I know I didn't sign up for that. You have to decide not to be a causality of your breakup. This is exactly what Khloe has decided to do. And she is doing great given the situation.

Khloe's priority is herself and her baby. Her focus is on becoming the "best version" of herself. Which I have no doubt she will and "being the best mom" for her daughter True. It's amazing the power of a breakup in giving your life both clarity and direction. At the end of the day, your greatest love and priority should be yourself. Because, the love you have for yourself makes all the difference when your world comes crashing down around you. You should always be number one in your own life and at the top of your to-do list. So, never put yourself at the bottom of your relationship or to-do list. 

Khloe recently posted on one of her IG stories that, "The worst pain is getting hurt by a person you explained your pain to."  She's likely referencing Jordyn Woods whom she often confided in. And even though she is "broken" by Thompson's latest cheating scandal she is able to still see the silver lining by saying "...that betrayal was your blessing." I could not agree more with this one. Sometime what we look at as bad, is really for our good. Even if we can see it at the time or fully understand why it happened. This tells me that Khloe will be good. See the blessing because the lesson is in the blessing.

Later this week Khloe escaped the drama with a girls’ trip to Palm Springs with sisters Kim and Kourtney, as well as best friend Malika Haqq. Sometimes you just need a girls' (or a guys' ) trip. You need to get away from the all the noise, the social media and the drama so that you can figure out your feelings, put things into perspective and plan your next move. As they say, "a setback, is a set up for a comeback."  When it's all said and done, you decide how you handle the aftermath of your breakup and what you do and don't do. The key is to do what is best for you. Take the time you need to process and heal your hurt.

You can't change your past, but you can make amends for it. Khloe has done exactly that in another IG Story post she says, "I apologize if I was ever the toxic person in anyone's life. Whether I did you wrong, led you on, acted on impulse, let my emotions get the best of me, or walked away with no explanation." To which she further added that she is maturing everyday and righting her wrongs, slowly becoming a better version of herself. And at the end of the day that is really all you can do. There you have it lessons we can learn from Khloe Kardashian. 

If it is one thing that I have learned from my own breakup blindside is that you can bounce back stronger, more confident and better than ever. Think of your breakup as a reboot or a hard reset where you get to redesign and do your life your way. You're in full and total control of what you do and how you do it. I call it an empowered breakup.  What an amazing option? The power of choice. At the end of the day you can have  good breakUP. And turn an ugly situation into something wonderful and great. I know it sounds crazy. But trust me when I say, your breakup is the best thing that could have happened to you. So don't waste it. Make it your best one.

There's alot we can takeaway from Khloe Kardashian's breakup. Pain and heartbreak knocks on everyone's door at some time in their life. The upside to this situation is to learn from it and move on. Our greatest pains are our greatest teachers. The key is what you do with those lessons and how you use them to change your own life and the lives of others. Feel free to share this post on your social media or with a friend who you feel can use the inspiration right now.