Break up better. It is possible to break up better. So why bank from your breakup? Why not? Seriously! There is no reason not to if you think about it. As you may already know if you follow the blog, I was blindsided by a breakup after a long-term relationship. I was ghosted. Yes, I was that person, #GhostedGirl. Or as my friends like to call me #GhostedBae. I didn’t see it coming. Ha-ha. Ok. It wasn’t funny at the time. The beauty about getting over a breakup is that you can look back and laugh at (if you choose to). Being able to laugh about my breakup has helped me to move through it. The point is you do get over it eventually. I couldn’t control the breakup. But I had control over how I handled the breakup and moved on from it. Keep reading if you want to learn why you want to bank from your breakup.

Apart from the typical and traditional post-breakup advice like the no contact rule, workout, find new hobbies, try new things, start dating again, distract yourself, keep busy, go to therapy, feel your feelings, rely on your support system, friends and family which are all great by the way. Don’t get me wrong. But there are other things you can do. Ultimately what you do is 100% up to you. You determine your process and how you navigate your breakup, bounce back and get over your ex. For me I decided to go in a different direction than what everyone else was going. Following the pack, has never been my thing from since I was a child. So really not surprised with how I did my breakup.

Your breakup is an opportunity to become better, chart new territory and do you on a big scale. Your breakup doesn’t have to break you. Instead it can build you. I am all about leveraging your breakup and using it to your financial advantage. Whether it be selling items from your relationship on eBay, Etsy or Shopify, creating a blog, freelancing, doing ecommerce, selling t-shirts, doing voiceover work, writing a book or starting a business. What ever it is, there is money in your breakup. The good news is that the internet makes it easier to bank from your breakup.

Banking from Breakup™ is not your traditional, predictable, run-of the-mill approach to breakups that every other breakup coach is peddling. As the creator, originator and found of Banking from Breakup, it is hell-a different. I wanted to do my breakup in an uncommon and unconventional way. So, I took a page from Taylor Swift, Khloe Kardashian and Adele. Breakups leave clues. What I noticed was that, instead of letting their breakups devastate them they channeled it into their financial gain. Taylor Swift with her Grammy-award winning songs and Khloe Kardashian with “Revenge Body”. This is not your typical post-breakup strategy. Plus, no one is really talking about banking from your breakup. It’s 2019, it’s time to change the way we get over breakups.

Unleash your inner badass and do the unexpected. Like I said, Banking from Breakup™ is not your typical or traditional way to get over a breakup and move on from your ex. There is nothing basic about it. It’s badassery at its highest level. So why not do the unexpected after your breakup? Because here’s the thing you should never leave a breakup empty handed. Banking from Breakup turns what is often a negative life event into not just a lesson, but a blessing. I believe you can have a good breakup. A breakup doesn’t have to be a bad thing. At the end of the day, you can make your breakup into anything you want. You control what you do post-breakup. By the power vested in me I now pronounce you a “breakup badass”. Yes, you have been deemed badass official. Your title also comes with “weapons of mass badassery”.

One in four people have major financial difficulties after a relationship breakup according to UK Study. And guess what you don’t want to be one of them. Breakups are bad enough emotionally. But when they affect your bank account that is not cool. No one should ever have to be in this situation. 20% of women and 3% of men stay in relationships because they cannot afford to leave. There is something not right about this. Being financially vulnerable sucks.

“I didn’t seek revenge on my ex, I banked from my breakup instead.”

As Beyoncé would say, the best revenge is your paper. No need to look for a hundred ways to get back at your ex or to make them pay. Living your best life is better than any revenge you could exact on your ex. Plus seeking revenge takes way too much work. Not only that, the focus is on your ex and not you. The way I see it, your ex doesn’t deserve any more of your time. They have wasted enough of your time already. Moving on, next. Better to invest your time to bank from your breakup and make that paper. So, keep it cute. Keep it moving. 

“I didn’t like to think that I wasted my time with my ex, so instead I decided to get a return on my 10-year plus investment. Now I get daily dividends.”

Think of banking from breakup as breakup insurance or your return on investment (ROI). You’ve invested time, money, love and affection. You deserve to be compensated for the inconvenience. So yes, it’s like a breakup fee if you think about it. Breakups are inconvenient. They’re not fun. So, what better way to move on than to cash in on it in some way. Hack your heartbreak and make some bank.

“Rather than throw things away from my ex I just decided to sell it. I figured someone else could use it.”

As they say someone’s trash is another person’s treasure. So, don’t throw away or burn their stuff, sell it. Bank from it! Things like gifts, clothing, furniture. Basically, it’s anything that reminds you of the relationship or your ex. There is no point holding on to those reminders. They are of no use or value. So why not turn it into cash. Because, what you hold on to holds you back. Which only makes you cling to the past and hold out for something that may never happen. It traps you in the past. As I say often, holding patterns are for planes, not people.

There is nothing worst than not being able to leave a relationship that is long over. And the thing is women are 7x more likely to stay in a relationship because of financial reasons. You don’t have to be confined to a dead relationship. No one should be a hostage in a relationship that clearly is over. That’s just not cool. Banking from Breakup™ is the best EXIT STRATEGY, hands down. And the thing is no one else is talking about this stuff. There is more to getting over a breakup, than just moving on. You need cashflow and resources to move on and live your BEST life.

You can never have too many income streams. Facts! The average millionaire has 7 income streams. Success leaves clues. How many income streams do you have right now? Your job is only 1 income stream. And if you were to lose your job today would you be okay financially? Being a single income earner was what made me create Banking from Breakup™. I told myself that I would never be financially vulnerable again. There is no better feeling than relying on yourself. Because at the end of day you are 100% responsible for yourself. And a partner is not a paycheck. Your financial future and freedom is in your hands. (Side note: what you may not know is that by the year 2020 5 million jobs will disappear because of technology and automation. That number will double by 2025. Something to think about. That is next year or more specifically 6 months from now.)

The fact is that 85% of relationships end in breakup. And the biggest reason why relationships end is because of money. So, chances are this may not be your last breakup unfortunately. It’s better to have a plan in place. Think of it as a Breakup Emergency Fund or as a Freedom Fund (aka a FU Fund). Last thing you want to do is to get caught in a situation where you are financially vulnerable. When you think about it, Banking from Breakup just makes sense. I wish I had thought of it sooner. It’s a very unorthodox way to handle a breakup, move on and get over your ex.

When you have your own money, you have options. Having money to do the things you love and live your life your way puts you in control. You are not dependent on a job or anyone else for that matter. In today’s financial climate and unstable economy, you have to create your own financial security. It is just the times we are living in. Breakups can break your bank account, but I’m hear to tell you that they do not have to.

The reality is that not every relationship is meant to last or built to last. Once I accepted that simple truth, I was ok with my breakup. The thing is each relationship is preparing you for “your one”. I believe that. Your relationships grow you to your next level of greatness if you are open to the growth that is available. So, when “your one” comes into your life, you’re relationship-ready.

"A man or woman is not a financial plan or a security blanket."

Your finances are 100% your responsibility. No one owes you anything. So, when you expect other people to take care of you, you give up your power. The only person you can truly rely on and trust is yourself. True financial empowerment is about making your own money, on your terms, your way. Banking from Breakup™ is all about that freedom life and multiple streams of income. Because at the end of the day, your financial future and freedom is yours! Don’t leave it to chance or circumstance. A breakup should not bankrupt you or devastate you financially. Big facts! At the end of the day you can break up better. It's your choice.

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