Why You Can't Blame Your Ex for how You're Feeling?
Here’s the thing about breakups, you may not have chosen your breakup, but you can choose your feelings about your breakup. When you step up and choose your feelings you render your breakup powerless. It no longer controls you or has power over you. Every day you get 86,400 seconds to choose your feelings. What will you choose?
Everyday I make a conscious decision to choose my feelings. My feelings are 100% my responsibility. No one owns or controls my feelings except me. No one can make me feel a certain way. How I feel each and every day is on me. No one else.
People Can't Make Your Feel Something
You choose to feel a certain way based on your past experiences, stories and life events. You have control over your feelings whether you choose to acknowledge and accept that. It is easy to pass off the responsibility for our feelings and to blame other people. Banking from Breakup is about putting on our big people underwear (panties or briefs) and owning it.
Think about this for minute. You came into this world by yourself and you will life this world by your self. You are responsible for the moments in between the day you are born and the day you die. That’s all you boo.
Like makeup, you put your feelings on. What feeling will you put on today or choose today? Focus on that feeling. Carry that feeling with you through the day. Do things that make you feel that way. Then in the evening reflect on those feelings. You are the source of your feelings. Your feelings are your creation. You are the common denominator of your feelings. Your feelings don't have to control you. Instead choose your feelings.
You are not Your Breakup!
The bottom line is this, your breakup does not define you. How you feel about your breakup is your choice, accept it or not. You had a breakup, but you control how you move on from it. Your breakup does not have to break you. The choice truly is yours.
When I understood this, my whole perspective changed about my breakup. Instead of seeing my breakup as a bad thing I saw it as something that happened to me, but that I had power and control to write the ending my way. I had no control over my ex’s actions, but I had control over me. This was my turning point. Because, I was not going to let my breakup break me. Instead I asked my self how can I use this experience to better myself and best my breakup? Was it easy? No Did it take some time to figure out? Oh yes. But I pushed through. I won me back. I won my life back. I stepped up and refused to be kept down.
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